Part of this in my experience comes down to something we tend to talk about a LOT, but put into practice much less frequently: separating IC and OOC. If your character is a huge racist jerkass, people just sort of -assume- you are too. It gets more muddied the less extreme the example of 'particular deviance/weirdness' is.
Look, we tend to talk a big game about keeping IC and OOC in their own corners, but as a hobby we -suck- at this. Maybe not all of us, but I think I can safely say that there's a nice bell curve between 'what separation?' and 'picture perfect model of person keeping things distinct'.
Until we're willing to roll with the idea that horrible characters who do terrible things are not by default played by awful people, I think this is a losing battle. We're too quick to take offense to... just about everything, and we as a hobby have way too long a memory for these things. I think this is unfortunate, but I think that it's the nature of the beast.
Honestly? I'm surprised but I'm not. I went to CalArts for character animation and while I didn't end up going into the field, I have a lot of former classmates who are. Animation is a hardcore boy's club and I've heard countless stories of women having to deal with harassment of all sorts.
So yeah, I hadn't heard anything specifically about John Lasseter but it fits the narrative of the animation industry that I have been hearing about for yeeeeeears.
I am finally starting to see some return for my efforts in career searching. I have three interviews lined up with good companies that pay well, one of them is even a salaried position and comes with government benefits!
We recently adopted a pair of Tonkinese cats, siblings. One boy (long hair), one girl (short hair). Kitty Pics!
(We did not name them)
We are getting a new second car! Well, used-new. New to us! An '07 Jeep Grand Cherokee Laredo that only has about 10K more miles on it than my '09 Forester.
I volunteer IRL, too (and I've done organizational stuff for book clubs/poker games/etc), and I have wildly different feelings/expectations/personal fulfillment about that experience and the people I do it with than I do about my IRL job and co-workers. I am one of those people who it grates whenever the term 'professional' is equated with hobby work. I get that it's inferring certain types of behavior (responsibility, commitment, etc) that I do think MU staff should have, but I get the knee-jerk reaction because I also have it.
This has been a tangent. Back to your regularly scheduled thread, and such.
Yes to this. Upvoting was not enough. I do volunteer work as well and that work has me interacting with colleagues sometimes. My professional career is one with a very high level of emotional 'work' attached and it takes effort and dedication to 'turn it off' at any point in the day in order to achieve any kind of balance or play any of the other roles that I am expected to play in life. I like working on games and playing on games, but I won't ever give the amount of myself to a game/hobby that I do to work, it would be unhealthy as well as impossible. The unstated message some send that if you don't have X amount of time and energy playing or working on a MU* is not for you annoy me too. Its possible to enjoy MU* even as our life stages and responsibilities change so long as we find the right place and the right people. Fun fact: I play on Arx even though my logins are unreliable and even though it is super fast paced. I wanted to do it and found a way(s) to do it and its awesome!
I think that it's interesting and indeed very important that the other person involved, really the person who was the victim of her passion play, said they didn't want it retconned. While I go on about how "The Game" is more important than a single player, players do make up The Game, and it must have been a hellish situation to find yourself administrating.
Finding the importance in balancing respect toward multiple people is when you can't just say "Don't Be a Dick" and when you can't go with strict policy. A mix of both can inform without demanding, and I appreciate it when people try.
@gangofdolls The Drow thing has a lot of backstory to it, and they were dark before they were ever cast underground. I can see why some might think of it that way however.
The real crux of it is this: There is no way to truly avoid discrimination because at this time humans are discriminatory by nature.
Sometimes it's racial ethnicity.
Sometimes it's social disparity.
Sometimes it's land of origin.
We as a species are always finding ways to /be/ discriminatory, so there's no real way of getting around that.
We even here on this board are discriminatory against certain types of RP, certain ways people describe their characters, certain character tropes.
Does any of this make it right? Probably not but we don't treat others equally. The only thing we can do is try to stop problem behavior.
As for the topic of the thread though, how should IC discrimination be handled? ICly. I don't hang out with people I dislike RL if I can avoid them. Why should it be any different in a game? I can dislike a character though, and still like the player, and still have fun interacting with that character but ICly, I guess it comes back to ICA=ICC.